In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, it’s easy to get caught up in taking care of others and forget about ourselves. However, self-care is not just a luxury, but a necessity — especially during this time of year. This is where TaMia Speaks comes in.
TaMia’s journey from Flint to Texas has been one filled with both triumphs and challenges. Graduating with her psychology degree from an HBCU was undoubtedly a high point for her, as it allowed her to enter the behavioral health field and pursue her passion for helping others. But along the way, she also experienced spiritual and narcissistic abuse that left her feeling drained and disconnected from herself.
It was during this difficult period that TaMia had an awakening — she realized that she had been living a life that served everyone else but herself. This realization sparked her journey towards genuine self-care — not just surface-level indulgences, but practices that truly nourished her mind, body, and soul.
Through her own experiences and personal growth, TaMia has discovered the power of self-care in allowing oneself to thrive. She now shares her insights and knowledge with others who may be struggling to prioritize their own well-being amidst their responsibilities to others.
In this article, we will delve into TaMia’s story further as she offers guidance on how we can all incorporate genuine self-care into our lives during the holiday season. TaMia’s journey serves as an inspiration for us all to prioritize ourselves and find true fulfillment during this busy time of year.
Please enjoy our interview!
How can we become more awakened to be self-aware of our own needs over others?
TaMia: I once heard someone say that when you say yes to one thing you automatically say no to something else, that “something else” is usually ourselves. For us as women, especially Black women, we say yes to ALOT of things for the betterment of everything and everyone else around us. We do this to the point of exhaustion, without taking breaks or asking for help. We give until we are burnt out. It is engraved in us to see everything as a priority but ourselves. It is vital that you understand that you are the priority in your life, and I don’t mean that in a conceited type of way, but in a healthy sense of self way. Keep in the forefront of your mind, that you can only serve others to the depth that you have served yourself, you are worthy and deserving of the same time, energy, passion and love that you give. So, the next time you say yes to something, ask yourself what am I saying no to?
Why is the conversation surrounding mental health so important?
TaMia: Conversations around mental health are important because there is still a lot of stigmas in the black community regarding the causes of it, what it looks like and how it is treated.
What do you enjoy most about being a life coach?
TaMia: I enjoy seeing clients become brave enough to deconstruct who they thought they were and what they thought they wanted to transform and reinvent themselves.
Who could benefit from having a life coach?
TaMia: Those that are looking to transform the relationship they have with themselves, a guide to wellness, authenticity, and accountability partner.
Tell us about your book.
TaMia: Mirrors provides expansive insight of self through a series of over 30 journal prompts and affirmations. The answers to these questions will improve your self-awareness and emotional intelligence which in turn, will help you understand how you show up in parent, platonic, romantic, and workplace relationships. Please note that this journey you are about to embark on takes intentionality, community, vulnerability, and persistence. Feel free to take breaks and revisit some of these questions in your own time; there is no destination but a continuous fulfilling journey. There may be moments where you are “undone” and enter an identity crisis as you deconstruct who you thought you were and what you thought you wanted. It’s time to reinvent yourself.